More important than any cologne or other manly scent are the odorless gasses that men emit at different times.  Any man can tell you that these gasses have wildly varying effects on all of the women he is romantically interested in.  Just call these gasses "scent".

 This is why sometimes new, good prospects go begging and at other times you are the one begging.  This is why a joke that always works suddenly does not work.  This is why you bang your head on the table over all of those blown opportunities once hard times arrive.

What can be done to dispel bad scent: not a thing.  What can be done to begin or enhance good scent: not a thing.  There are, though, important things to keep in mind on this subject.

During periods of good scent, tell the runner-ups that you are very interested, but so involved presently it would not be right.  It beats a promised phone call that never comes until it is too late. 

 And do not get greedy.  Here is the perfect chance to blow off the best looking ladies with great results later.  Act like a guided missile with the primary object of your affection.  After all, which would you prefer once that good scent is gone: A dozen women who were interested in you for a week or a great lady with a smile that matches yours?

Being surrounded with bad scent is the real challenge.  Stay outside a lot to keep air on the move.  Avoid face to face contact with the opposite sex.  Stay out of singles bars.  If your girlfriend seems to be choking on the stuff, leave town for a few days.  She won't mind.

 If there is a grand scheme to the world, scent is one of those things that make a man wonder whether the Creator is "just" or "just a joker".

Especially men tend to believe that one’s job defines who they are.  But a man’s occupation, even the absence of one, does not greatly limit one’s opportunities with the ladies. 

The evidence for that can be found everywhere.   

Ever heard someone say:

“How could that woman be with that hammer-swinging loser!!!  Look at me who she turns down!!??##$$  I am a professional for god’s sakes!  Is she blind to her own well being?”

The reply should be: “No, she knows what she wants.  But she obviously is unable to see in a whiner like you the kind of manly traits she can always spot very clearly in other men whether they are a professional or not.”

If your occupation makes you happy, provides a modicum of pride, and leaves you some time and energy, you are in the best position job-wise to have success with the ladies.  You will be judged romantically on scorecards that have little to do with how you earn your daily bread.

A great part of how one looks is how one dresses, something within your own control.

 Your clothes should reinforce the persona you put forth to the world.  For some men it means having a big wardrobe.   For at least as many men, it can be as easy as wearing jeans almost every day.  The difference is whether your chosen persona is something like “daring and dashing” or something like “friendly and informal”.

A few things do, however, apply to everyone.

1.         Do not wear clashing items.

2.         Do not wear clashing colors.

3.         Do not mix patterns.

4.         Keep the wrinkles and tears and stains to a minimum.

5.         Think about where you are going today before you dress.

There is hardly a woman around who often encourages men to engage in physical combat.  There is not a woman on earth who does not treasure the man who violently defends her from injury or insult in a tense situation.

Although the advance of civilization and state has greatly reduced the likelihood of sudden attack, the attraction to righteous violence will always remain a prime human trait.  Even in our 21st Century, whether watching television series in Britain or in Outer Mongolia, the manly, romantic appeal of killing the bad guys is a constant theme.  There is nothing more central to establishing civilization.

Ready for War

Just don't make it a habit!

BODY LANGUAGE

The language of romantic love is no more sincerely expressed anywhere than in the positions, movements and touching in public between lovers, present or future.  An effective chauvinist relies mostly on body language in gauging feminine interest.  The reply to lightly touching a leg or to talking close together can say more about where you stand with a woman than hours of conversation alone can.

Simple principles to keep in mind are:

1.  Keep your stance open and your shoulders square (no slouching). 

2.  Do not scratch your head or something worse all of the time.  Visible nerves are a serious negative, including gulping alcohol or cigarettes. Take a tranquilizer or learn yoga instead.

3.  Continue touching when she seems to like it, but retreat a bit when the first flag goes up.  If a woman has to seriously say no, you have already blown it.

 Although a face has a mouth that does not mean its best communication is spoken.  A constant blank look is a sure sign of a Nice Guy or a dimwit.  Teach yourself facial expressions.  Check it out in the mirror as long as required.  Make sure they fit.  You will know success when you see your expressions coming from her or your friends.

SMILING        PIQUED     PUZZLED    INTERESTED!

At once the most hated and the most common venue for meeting new people is the singles bar.  It is a place where even the best chauvinist is going to have spotty success.  It is the free-fire zone in the battle of the sexes.

 Everyone knows why unattached people go to singles bars.  With so many people there concentrated on the same goal, one would think there would be a lot more sex happening than actually occurs.  That is because men and women have mind-sets on this battlefield that do not mesh.  Blame is mostly due to a defense reflex women have toward men who are presumed to be on the prowl for a one-night-stand.

 One place, maybe the only place, not to play the chauvinist stud is when you first meet the usual woman in a singles bar.  Unlike at the beach, at a concert, at the office or at the supermarket, the key here is authenticity (even if you have to fake it).  On the ground though most men just make matters worse by playing the egomaniac more at bars than they do anywhere else.

So, apply these special rules when the bullets are flying.

1.      Talk with as many people as possible, preferably female.  You are just "the friendly guy" out for a nice time. 

2.      Do not openly check out every woman there.  The lady who may be the best for you is the most likely person to see you do it.  Keep your eyes on your        
      conversation while glancing around occasionally.

3.      Keep the inviting look off your face until someone gives you one or two.  Also can the blank look.  Always smile. 

4.      Say how much you hate singles bars. 

5.      Point out how much of a whore this woman or that is.  This topic always works at least once.

6.      If you pass on a conversation opportunity once do not expect a welcome response later.  Payback is hell. 

7.      Do not walk around a dozen times.  It shows aggression and failure.

8.      Have an extremely thick hide.  You will need one. 

9.      Hope for your share of intoxicated, easy girls to talk to.

The only problem is that it is not real.  It is strictly about money.  Unless the place is a bordello, the chances with those beautiful women are just about zero.  Even a good chauvinist has trouble overcoming the stereotype dancers have of their customers.

But, also appreciate the pleasures of titty bars.

Where else are you going to see this much live female flesh at once?

Here is the place to learn to be relaxed with beautiful naked women. Try every approach you can think of and still not create a scene.

Whoop it up with your buddies!  This is the way beautiful women ought to act.

People's perception is that chauvinist playboys are always lying to their lovers about their true feelings and their past.  It is not true. 

Far from being penalized for womanizing, men with such a track record, if unattached now, are actually the top prospects to women.  Remember the feminine philosophy.  Even though single men, by their nature, are weak in resisting the women who throw themselves at them, once romantic love truly takes hold even the most prolific man will be in its spell quite possibly for the rest of his life.  Is it not best to capture the very man other woman want but cannot have?  The sole question is whether fate has romantic love in store for the two of us. 

Well, for most women, there is only one way to truly find an answer to that question.  That is, of course, to have a torrid romance.  If the attraction is strong, the sooner it begins the better.  If the answer to the question of love turns out to be no, that will become apparent sooner or later whether the man is a “lying and cheating” type or a “kiss and still tell the truth” type.  Temporary advantages but long term negatives accrue for the dishonest types. 

The question of being truthful or not is not one much impacted by romantic strategies or any other single subject.  It is inelastic.  If one tends to be a liar in one part of their life, you can bet your last dollar that there is deception in other ways too.  Thankfully, the reverse is also true.

However, if you are basically truthful, but sometimes use white lies to spare the ladies’ feelings, you may only need a few style pointers.  A good example is actor Nick Nolte’s character in the American film on tough guy chauvinism entitled “North Dallas Forty”.

Joanne:  Philip, do you love me.

(pregnant pause.)

Philip:   Sort of.

Joanne:  What kind of answer is that!

Philip:  It is the only kind of answer I can give to someone I really care about and who really needs to know the truth.

Well, mark this night on your calendar.  You are going to make love to a woman for the first time together.  You have reached heaven!  You have won the game!  Ecstasy is yours!  But what do I do now? 

Here is another area where effective chauvinists can have opposite methods. 

The selfish sort, like a bull in a china shop, gets his pleasure as quickly and directly as possible.  The attitude is if I have what I want what difference does it make what the woman’s wishes are?  Once begun, most women will continue an affair even with a brutish lover.

The self-actualized chauvinist, like playing the harp in a Mozart opera, gets the greatest part of his pleasure in satisfying his partner.  To these men, there is no more wonderful moment in life than a passionate, mutual high after a talented buildup.

Unlike honesty and dishonesty, no advantages accrue for the bad guys in lovemaking even in the short run.   Not only do they miss a life experience that lies beyond their shallow minds, they never attain the tie that binds a woman more than any other.  Once a woman latches onto a lover that provides her a trip to the moon she does not want to let go.  Unless lied to, a truly fulfilled woman may slowly let worries about romantic love go out the window (at least until Mr. Right comes along). 

Good lovemaking is one of the best ways to keep everyone happy for the longest time, including you.  It will make one the best chauvinist he can be!